No Fit Friends: Is Converting Someone the Answer?


A few weeks ago, I was looking for a fit friend and I realize I may have been going about it the wrong way. I put up my criteria on Facebook and I believe that many did not take too kindly because in a way, I was fat shaming. I don’t want to be THAT person. I’ll usereligion as an example. You know those people that go around and knock on your door with those creepy pamphlets asking you to make Christ/Jehovah your Lord and Savior? I would love nothing more than to reach my goals and make everyone in the world see the light. But I know I don’t want to be THAT fitness freak trying to convert everyone around them.

Like those door-to-door religious folk, if people are not ready, they’re just going to slam the door. I put myself out here not to show you how far I’ve come, look at me!…no wait, I lie. I do want you to look at me but I want my friends who aren’t fit to be OK with asking me for help. I don’t want to appear like I’m a fit-litist either, someone who looks down on people who aren’t taking care of their bodies and giving their bodies proper nutrition. I want to educate and welcome you…show you that it’s not so hard.

Guess what? I have a friend who broke down and came to me! I’m happy and I’m going to take her along with me. Congrats KK! We’re in this together and by teaching you, I will continue to learn and grow!


Ohh Snap! This Chica Ran 3 miles

runrouteI did it, I did it HOORAY!

I ran a 5K at 5:00 a.m. this morning! What the hell was I thinking? My legs are shot, back is aching and my feet good GAWD! Mama said there would be days like this. I was told to keep at it and over time it will improve. My issue is consistency or the lack thereof. I just can’t seem to stay with anything for long enough to see progress. This probably explains why I’m still 220 lbs a year later. I’m not going to say I’ll be a run master but I will make an effort to actually improve. Watch out for me in the morning!


A Fit Friend is Hard to Find


I haven’t had a close female friend in a while now. It’s partially by choice and partially because I’m afraid  to open myself up to women and their drama. I’m not your typical woman. I like sports, hate gossip, not particularly emotional and I avoid Lifetime, Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love & Hip Hop, etc at all costs. Yeah, it’s a stereotype but rooted in truth. I began my fitness journey alone and though I’ve made lots of progress, I don’t want to continue without a support system I can lean on.

I have yet to find a friend who is into fitness as much as I am. I mostly hang out with women of color, and at one point, I started to believe what people say about black women: Black women don’t workout. I know that’s not true but when I looked around the gym, I didn’t see anyone who looked like me. Maybe I’m too picky. Let me break it down for you. I’m looking for someone like me with at least 80 percent of the qualities listed below and fitness oriented HAS to be one of them.  :) .

  • Educated
  • Age 25-35
  • Career Oriented
  • ESPN Apostle
  • Foodie
  • Low Maintenance (Not needy/clingy)
  • Fitness Oriented

Is it you?